Jan 10, 2020

Dealing With Tough Times: How To Move Forward In Your Relationship


Life can be a bed of roses, but it can also be challenging. When you’re in a relationship, there are bound to be highs and lows. It’s normal to experience tough times, but that doesn’t offer much comfort if you’re struggling to see a way through. If you are going through a bad patch with your partner, here are some steps that may help you move forward. 




Talk to each other
When you know someone extremely well and you have a really close bond, it can be easy to assume that they somehow know exactly how you’re feeling, and to presume that you know what is going through their mind. The truth is that none of us are mind-readers. Your partner may have no idea how you’re feeling and vice-versa. The key to tackling problems and moving on after a difficult period often lies in talking to each other and filling in the blanks. It’s not always easy to have frank conversations, but you’ll feel better if you open up and you’re both honest. You don’t have to make a big deal about communicating and set a time and date to discuss how you feel. Instead, get into the habit of communicating freely on a regular basis. Even the simplest things like asking your other half how their day was or listening if they’re feeling down can make all the difference. 


Don’t be afraid to seek help or advice
Some of us find it very easy to talk about our feelings, while others struggle to express emotions. Often, we are reluctant to open up to the people we love because we don’t want to burden or upset them. We also want to protect ourselves, and being honest can make us feel vulnerable. If you don’t want to speak to somebody you know, you might find seeing a therapist or a counselor beneficial. You can do this alone or with your partner. Choose a therapist that has experience in the kinds of problems you’re experiencing, for example, a relationship counselor or a sexologist. Talking to somebody that doesn’t have any preconceptions about your relationship and having someone to listen to you can be refreshing and reassuring. 

Concentrate on the present while building a future

Many of us find it difficult to move on after a rocky patch because we keep looking backwards or we obsess about the future. It can be positive to look forwards, but don’t let this approach apply extra pressure. We live in a society where milestones are laid out for us, and this can create added strain. Focus on the present, have fun now and start building your future together. If you get carried away with wanting to be married by the time you’re 30 or have children and a house and a dog by 35, this can hamper your enjoyment of the present and increase stress. 

Highs and lows are par for the course in any relationship, but sometimes, tough times can floor us. If you’re struggling to move on, hopefully, you’ll find this guide helpful. 

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