We are living in a
fairly modern world, which means that there are a lot of practices that have
drifted further from the traditional and have become tangled up in all things
modern. One such practice that has dramatically changed has been dating.
There was once a time
that people would court; as in, they’d meet at a dance or a bar and they’d
dance and sway before going for meals and eventually - if the person was right
- getting married and having children. The world has changed a little since
then. People have a lot less time to go out dancing and meeting each other in
bars these days, which means that we must get with the times and go
online.
Online dating, to
some, is a four letter word and shouldn't be allowed. They think it’s a sad
idea, with anyone needing to go to the internet to get a date is lacking
somewhere. Here’s the thing about that: they’re wrong. Online dating is modern,
it’s on trend, it’s safe (if you do it right!) and it’s a great way to expand
your horizons beyond the local bar. That doesn't mean that there aren't rules that
must be followed, though. Dating in general can be hazardous (hello, Ted
Bundy.) and you have to ensure that you are looking for love in the right
places. Whether you are interested in Muslim
dating online or you want to give online chat rooms a go, you have to follow
the golden rules. Safety is key, and you want it to be the best possible
experience that you can have. Without further ado, let’s talk through the
golden rules for finding love online.
- Rule 1: Don’t Meet Privately
Remember we talked
about safely? Well, when you are meeting someone online, you are meeting a
computer screen with a personality. The TV show Catfish is one of the best ways
to see how people aren’t themselves online. That’s not to put you off, it just
means that if you hit it off with someone online, you need to meet in a public
and open place - don’t go to a stranger’s house! You don't know them properly,
so you need to ensure that you are meeting you are as safe as possible.
- Rule 2: Don’t Drink
You need your wits
about you for a date, and you’re not really you if you are under the
influence of a drink. Not only that, but your decision making skills are pretty
rubbish when you have a wine or two in your system. Stick to sparkling drinks
to match your sparkling personality.
- Rule 3: Don’t Get Physical
(Physical)
It’s not about slut
shaming or talking about when to have sex, it’s about sexual
safety! You could meet someone and sleep with them on the first date should
you wish, but do you really want to do that? It’s not all that fun to grab and
go, and possibly have no clue what’s next for your future together. Slow it
down and get to know them first; it’s far more fun!
Take heed, internet
peeps; the online world is a big and scary place sometimes and the search for
love isn’t all that easy!